Posted: 7/22/97
Edited: 12/14/99

here are many situations presented to you in life that will offer you the opportunity to, symbolically, put the mirror up in front of your face and take a look at what is being reflected back. Not everyone is ready for this kind of experience, as it will demand from you the ability to really look at the truth that is being mirrored back. This isn't always easy to do, that is why your guidance presents you with people in your life that will evoke strong emotions from you. What most people tend to do when someone stimulates an uncomfortable feeling within them, is to avoid that person or aggressively confront them. In order to justify your feelings, it is common to begin putting them down and building yourself up as correct or the right one in the situation. The cosmic joke is that you will continue to encounter this type of energy pattern in another person until you look in the mirror and find out what it is about you that is attracting them into your reality.

What is contained within the essence of what it is that you do not like about this other person, are patterns that are from unresolved childhood and pastlife karmic issues. For example, if your new female boss is a domineering, controlling person who never listens to what you have to say and you are constantly disagreeing about how something should be done, you may be reliving some unresolved issues with a dominant feminine person in your life like your mother, grandmother or older sister.

The first step in trying to resolve a recurring scenario is by looking in the mirror. Sit down with a pen and paper, write down everything that bothers you about this person and the situation. Try to really get down to the essence of what it is, not just the surface situations and events that are occurring, explore your deeper feelings. Once you have done this, it is time to hold the mirror up and take a look. Try to ask yourself if there are any situations/relationships in your life where you are acting in this way. Using the example above, with the domineering, controlling presence, suppose you treat your child this way. You never fully listen to what they have to say, because you think with all your wisdom that you know what is best for their soul's purpose. Perhaps your child intuitively knows that they need to take music lessons, but you insist that becoming a doctor is what they are supposed to do in order to please your needs. You are denying their soul the right to make their own choices and creatively express themselves. Underneath that is possibly the fact that your mother/father did not allow you to choose and you are just repeating an unconscious pattern. A deeper truth might be that because your creativity was cut off, you will not allow your child to explore their own path either. The cycle repeats again -- generation after generation.

Try to ask yourself what belief system do I need to let go of in order to move to a place of Love with this person. Using the example above, it may be that you believe exploring one's creativity is not acceptable behavior for becoming a responsible, productive member of society. The first step to breaking this pattern is awareness, then action -- acknowledge to yourself that you want to move this situation into The Light. From that point, you need to replace the old core belief system with a new one. If the core issue was that you were not allowed to make a choice about what you wanted to do in your life, then you need to begin by making those choices now and following them. Right or wrong at first, the important thing is to break the old belief pattern. As you do this for yourself, you will begin to allow your child the freedom to make more choices in their life. From there, the original situation with your boss will cease to be a problem. You will be a more empowered person and no longer need to attract someone who will try to control you. This is a Universal Law of The Light.